What if we totally clip down any kind of freedom to our kids with the fear of harm it might cause, with our good intentions abound as a distressed parent! Surely, they will have fewer mistakes. But with lesser mistakes will be lesser learning. Can we then discount one of the primary role of a parent to nurture the kid to become a self sustainable human being? So are we up for this bargain! I guess no as that would be rather more harmful for my child in long run.
When it comes to parenting, there’s no magic pill or easy way out. I always feel that parenting is like a job of an unpaid juggler. With practice and years into it, we succeed but then we cannot totally be failure-proof as we are dealing with lives involved.
For deeper purview, click on the given link for my article titled Let’s talk about Freedom on Parentous.com @ http://www.parentous.com/2014/08/14/should-children-be-given-more-freedom/
Parentous.com is an acclaimed blog on parenting and an initiative by leading Indian blog BlogAdda.
This is so difficult topic and deep. “Better to die fighting for freedom then be a prisoner all the days of your life.”
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Thanks Mihrank for your views
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Freedom is a basic human right. But as parents it is important to moderate the activities of their children. As for children- freedom should always come with some responsibility
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The trick lies in the artful balance of discipline as well as freedom for sound growth and when you are involved with it all the time, it’s not that easy.
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Freedom comes with it’s responsibilities for everyone, I feel. Not just children 🙂
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I had visited the site once, a great initiative
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Thanks Datta
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I read the article on the link provided and left my thoughts there. Lovely write up Chaitali.
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Thank you always
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A good teaser…. I’m gonna read the full…..On the way:
Freedom is not worth having if it doesn’t include the freedom to make mistake. ~Mahatma Gandhi
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Thanks Ravish
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Should children be given freedom? A nice topic and will definitely go through it. 🙂
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Yes indeed
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Very well written Chaitali. Agree with all you have written & being a mother of a 9 yr old son I can very well relate with many of your thoughts & can say that I think on the same line as you. You are so right in saying that discipline should focus more on guidance than dominance.
Thanks for sharing the wonderful poem it sums it all beautifully.
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I am glad you could relate…thanks
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My struggles with parenthood is letting go. I find that a big challenge as my kids get older. I give them a little more freedom/responsibility as they grow, but I don’t find it easy to do.
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As I mentioned on the article, I absolutely agree….being a parent is not an easy game…it’s a constant nurturing process one has to provide…thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts
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Shared it on facebook. Its so wonderful to connect with people like you Chaitali.
I’m happy to be a blogger :).
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Thanks for sharing Priyanki
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Thanks to you for sharing such wonderful thoughts.
All such thoughts should be available to more & more people.
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Beautiful. Let’s say strong as people and be free from prejudices and negative attitudes.
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Good one Chaitali. Read the whole post on parentous too! And, liked it. esp. the list 😀
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Ha ha…it keeps on changing and increasing
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Totally agree. My wife is over protective. My daughter, all of sixteen, is revolting and wants to experience the world. She claims she has grown up. I agree with her. But I am also afraid. I realise though unless we let her be, she will remain immature.
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thank you for your time.
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Its a nice topic Chaitali.. The freedom at one end and its control at the other. sometimes I do believe that most things in life should be earned, including the freedom.. I love the use of the quote at the start, beautiful one 🙂
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Thanks for your insight Vinay
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“unpaid juggler” – nice way to see it. And tha’s what it really is.
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Yes it is…
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Nicely written. loved your blog.
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Thank you so much…keep reading though
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Read and commented .. that is very insightful
as i said on the post i think we need to respect the young ones .. as we expect our’s to be respected by our parents ..
TALKING is the best way .. get to know our kids more
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Thanks Bikram for your time and precious views
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I totally agree with you. Specially liked ‘but with lesser mistakes will be lesser learning…’. Nicely written.
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Thanks Aditya…I am glad
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Chatali for someone like me from village the knowledge to write or share on things like this is very less.Anyway i will tell a point i heard from a priest.Nowadays everyone including parents are finding shortcuts to avoid mistakes or failures for kids by giving them less freedom.i mean mistakes and failures are the best teachers right?
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Rightly said the last lines
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Rightly said…The topic you have chosen is very much vast but I will keep it simple…freedom must be right guidance and with children it always should be careful and right guidance which is in fact a difficult job as a parent as we ourselves are in a learning phase…sometimes as a parent we too have restricted freedom.
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Thanks uma for sharing your insightful thoughts
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Nice topic. Beautifully written..
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Thank you
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Totally agree, Chaitali.
Freedom is also to make mistakes & learn & grow. We can’t spoon-feed.
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Thanks Anita for the read.
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Sensitively written, Chaitali! This post addresses the dilemma that most parents face and it dwells upon the complexity of the path of parenthood. With access to so many articles that discuss the ‘dos and don’ts’ in terms of parenting, the conflicts only multiply. Also, every child is unique and there is no magic formula that can set common guidelines. The only answer then is one’s instinct. A parent’s instinct is perhaps the only guide to raising a child. That again, is not failure-proof 🙂
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Thanks Vidya..let’s be in touch
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Intrigued to know your thoughts, on to Parentous…
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Hey Saru….thanks so much for your time and interest.
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By now i am sure you understood from my comments something is wrong with me.i just said good bye before you say some harsh words to me.That is all.God Bless :).
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I would appreciate if you dont use my space for commenting on inner frustrations any further as I am no counsellor….god bless and goodbye
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My empathy with current parents. They have to be go-getters, role models, providers of cell phones, moral police who have to ‘spare the rod’ and yet be ‘cool’ enough.
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Thank you for your insight and time
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